This was our 2nd time going to TGirl Nights, and our 3rd time at Hamburger Mary's. We were both looking forward to it with a lot of excitement. Having a public venue and event that is safe, fun, and more importantly emotionally comfortable for us, where we can be who we are is amazing and energizing!
I had read that there was going to be some type of film or video shooting going on. One of the girls had been posting on Facebook to get trans people to be a part of it. My understanding was that the shooting was to be out front. And when we drove by the street entrance to Mary's they were definitely in the process of shooting.
We parked our car at a small lot across the street. I was of course nervous about walking in my new heels because they were taller than any other's I have (4" vs. 3"). I did fine on the walk to the club entrance, and really enjoyed the feel of a slight breeze in my skirt!
This time there was a little rush of people arriving at the same time as us, so we got in line and waited our turn to show ID and get our bracelets. When it was my turn I think the girl checking IDs was surprised again when she looked at my license and then up to my face to see if it was really me :-D I think this time I said something like "Yes, it's really me." I'm definitely eating that up as a compliment!!!
We entered the main door and were asked if we had reservations (we did not this time). We were still early enough that when we were escorted to our seats, they were again right next to the stage/dance floor.
What we immediately noticed was the film/video crew were setup inside! I was a little worried about being seen on a show of some kind that someone I know could see one day. Almost immediately upon sitting down one of the film crew came by with a release form for us to accept or reject being a part of the filming. I didn't wan't to be a party-pooper and cause them to have to blur our faces out, so what the heck, we wen't with it. I hope it makes it to release one day!
After that the TGirl Nights promoter/hostess Jamie Jameson walked by and recognized us from last month! She even remembered my name! She is just great! And I guess she's been doing this for 6 years now.
This was the night before Easter, and they were handing out bunny ears for anyone that wanted them. We picked up a pair and ordered some drinks and food (the food was excellent, again). Then the film crew was asking for people to join together so they could shoot us dancing and having a good time. We joined in for that. The trans girl that had requested people to join in for the shooting had some lines to say for the filming, and we (the crowd) were to cheer and wave afterward. We did a few takes and that was it for the filming.
We were both up for dancing this time around. Miss and I got out on the dance floor quite a bit. We were both really enjoying the drinks that we were ordering, and we were both having a blast. Some of it she doesn't remember too well - LOL! But she was certainly taking the lead with me on the dance floor, and that felt GREAT! Wonderful reversal of traditional gender roles.
There are photographers and videographers that regularly shoot the party. This time we got caught in a still picture and in a few seconds of video. I tried to chop stills out of the video and put them into an animated GIF file. Not sure if Blogger will allow the animated file, but here goes nothing!
Eventually Miss had enough liquid courage to feel comfortable going up to one of the Go-go dancers and tipped her. The dancer gave her a very 'nice' hug I believe :-)
At around midnight Jamie has a cash raffle, and then invited anyone that wanted to join in a group picture to do so (to show off those cute bunny ears!). I joined in.
So we had another great time! Now to think about what to wear next time...
Take care everyone!!!!
You go, girl! Sounds like a fun time!
ReplyDeleteMandy
Thanks Mandy - We're really enjoying it!
DeleteI guess it's our date night thing now :-)
Wow, what an exciting night, Jen! Sounds like a place where you can be comfortable in being 'you'. I bet that felt wonderful when Miss took the lead on the dance floor.
ReplyDeleteMay I ask you a couple of questions? Did you feel very girly while at the club? Also, do attending these events give you confidence to reveal a little more of that side of you to friends or family?
Warm wishes,
Scott
Thank you for the comment Scott!
DeleteI do appreciate the questions you ask :-)
I absolutely loved the feeling of being lead on the dance floor. It felt emotionally 'comfortable' for lack of better words to describe it. I guess it was nice to be kind of 'directed'.
Instead of me dancing with some kind of 'male' purpose or machismo attitude, which in the past seemed to feel to me like I didn't really know what I was doing, I felt like I was more going with the flow and trying much more to compliment how Miss was dancing with my own.
While I haven't kept any type of track of these new feelings and emotions that happen when I'm en-femme, I basically just feel better and more at ease that way. The more I experience life en-femme, the more I want life en-femme. I'm addicted ;-)
So YES! I feel very girly at the club. I know there are probably guys (or ?) looking at me (and Miss too) and hopefully enjoying what they see. Of course I'm not 'interested' but a girl can enjoy the attention, can't she?
I think more and more about coming out. I'm pretty much out to Miss's daughter already.
I should have posted about going out to dinner for her daughter's birthday recently but life is very busy for me and I didn't. I wore all girl clothes but they were not girly. Skinny jeans, with a blue button down non-frilly blouse and very low heeled black women's shoes.
Last weekend Miss and I went shopping and picked up a couple of women's casual t-shirt tops that I will start to wear with her when we are out and I am in boy mode. So I'm working on being more girl, more often!
I could see myself coming out to Miss's mother possibly. At least I'd like to be able to do that one day sooner than later but only if Miss feels it's appropriate. As for coming out to my family, that's still a ways off. I think I want the kids to be beyond "kids" in their age and maturity before dropping this on them :-)
Thank you, and best wishes as always to you Scott!
jen