Quest for average clothing!

Miss and I were shopping a few weeks ago at our favorite 'low price leader' retailer, and they already had swim suits on sale! I was very surprised at this, even for this particular store.

I noticed a ladies skirted swim bottom where the skirt was made of a lace like material, which struck me as being PERFECT to help obscure any unexpected, inappropriate, and embarrassing protrusions of my en-homme bits... if you know what I mean ;-)

Probably the only reason that it caught my eye was that I had bought a top some months ago, thinking it was a regular piece of clothing. But when I went to try it on at home I discovered it was actually a swim top. Rather than taking it back, I kept it in hopes of finding a bottom to go with it. And it looks like maybe I did!

Please ignore the shoes in the photos, I was rushing a bit as I think I needed to get dinner started and they were what I wore with another outfit I was trying on that I'll post next.

So I think with this swim suit combo, Miss and I will be able to hit the beach this summer!

The top works great with my breast enhancers, so I should be able to get in the water without worrying about things shifting around, as long as the waves aren't too rough.

Miss has changed her diet over the last 4 or 5 months and is looking even more sexy than usual, so we will need to pick her up a new swim suit too. And that's another reason why my coverup swim bottom is a MUST HAVE! - LOL!

And no, we are not in a rush for summer to get here. But it will be a fun time.

Below is another little casual outfit with a black skirt and red checked top. It looks kind of sporty and fun looking to me for whatever reason. But I'm no fashion expert, and probably most can tell that from some of the outfits I've posted pictures of.

And one more outfit I think would work well to go out in. I love the plaid skirt, and we found some very pretty patterned tights to go along with it.

 

I hope everyone is having a good start to the new year- take care!

jen

Back from holiday

I feel so disappointed in myself for not posting for so long!

The end of year is very busy for me between work and friend and family time, and that's where my priorities unfortunately need to be most of the time. Such is life! I'm sure many can relate.

I was not able to get out en-femme much at all either, which is the most disappointing thing. Miss and I did make it out for one trip to a mostly outside shopping mall a few days before Christmas. We ended up going out in the evening, and luckily in California the weather is usually very mild so we didn't need to wear anything over our blouses while there.

The selection of shops at this mall wasn't that great of a match for the few gifts I still needed, so it ended up being a mostly window shopping experience.

Miss was keeping here eyes on others to see if they were taking any notice to me, and she said she didn't see anyone looking our way with any curiosity.

Here are a couple of pictures of me after we got back home. Miss and I have actually shared clothes a few times in the past, and this top she has worn also - we both like it a lot! We get such a kick being able to share clothes and love that we are able to. I think this is a really good casual look, which is something I have wanted to try out. Skinny jeans (yummy!) and flat healed boots. I was testing the wardrobe in public I guess :-)

Oh, Miss did my nails again for this trip out. She puts on white tips at the end of my nails, and then glue with a powder coating. They look really good this way and extend the length of my nails nicely.

 

 Miss didn't make any romantic gestures or conversation while we were out, she just wanted this to be a platonic girls out shopping together kind of night. I felt a little emotionally denied when I realized that, but we wanted this to be a low key trip. So we said our occasional random "I love you"'s out of ear shot of other shoppers.

The highlight of the trip was walking into Bath and Body Works and being greeted as we entered with a "Hi ladies!" from one of the clerks. Awesome! We spent quite a while checking out the different lotions and fragrances.

I of course was totally paranoid that people were going to notice me and stare. The store was very well lit and pretty crowded.

I did make eye contact with other shoppers, but pretty much just stood there looking at things on the display's, in a lot of apprehension and fear, as Miss was leisurely testing out the sampler products. At that point I was assuming that people were noticing me (but apparently they weren't!)

I know I need to gain confidence being out in public more! I don't do New Years resolutions, but if I did the top of the list would be getting out en-femme more! (Duh, isn't that universal for girls like us?)

We considered eating at one of the restaurants there as we finished shopping, but they were all a bit pricey or not the kind of food we wanted for dinner. We did have plans to go to lunch on New Years Eve, but life got in the way of us being together that day and it didn't happen. I was really working up my nerve (and really looking forward) to going to lunch en-femme too! We will get to that in time.

I hope everyone had a great end of year and holiday season!

Take care all and Happy New Year!

jen

US House of Representatives has one Republican Congresswoman with a transgender child!

Sorry to let a bit of my political bias out, but how ironic that the only known Congressperson with a transgender child is a Republican?

And before I go on, Cheers to Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen for what she is saying in support of her child and to other parents! (See excerpt farther below.)

Of course there have been plenty of Republican politicians that we have learned over the years have gay, or at least bisexual sexual orientations. And of course Republicans are targeted and outed in the press for their hypocrisies with respect to LGBT concerns much more than Democrats, but I'd love to know what number or percent of Democrats are identified or known to be a part of the LGBT community vs. what that might be for Republicans (that we've learned about over the years). It would be hilarious if the numbers were more for the GOP :-)

From the article Politician on Transgender Son: 'We're Proud of Him':

The Republican Rep. — and only member of Congress with a transgender child — took to TV on Nov. 17, during Transgender Awareness Week, in a public show of support for her 28-year-old, born Amanda. She urged other parents of transgender kids to have as much pride in their sons and daughters as she has in the eldest of her four children and stepchildren. “We know Rigo as our child, whether it’s Amanda or now as Rodgrigo, he’s our son and we’re proud of him"

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Ros-Lehtinen is the first House Republican to support gay marriage and the only Republican on the 112-member Congressional LGBT Equality Caucus. And she’s supported her son throughout his journey, which began when he came out to his parents as a lesbian in high school and then as transgender during college in 2007. “As parents, we wanted Rodrigo to understand that we’re totally fine with it,” the congresswoman explained. “He’s our son, we’re proud of him.”

Now the mom is asking other parents to stand behind their transgender kids, too. “Don’t freak out,” she advised. “Stay calm and don’t be afraid. And love your child because that person is your child whether it’s the person you wanted him or her to be or not. That’s my advice to parents. Never, never reject your child. That’s unconditional love, no matter what.”

A third of Fortune 500 companies now cover transgender health care

Great to hear about progress in mainstream America for transgender issues!

A third of Fortune 500 companies now cover transgender health care

From the article:

The number of Fortune 500 companies willing pay for sex reassignment surgeries and other transgender-related healthcare has gone from zero in 2002 to 169 this year, according to a new report from the Human Rights Campaign.

The report, which ranks corporations on their treatment of gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans employees, also found that more than half of corporations with more than 500 employees that participated in the survey now cover the procedures. That’s 418 firms.

Some of the biggest names in corporate America are among those who have signed up to cover the procedures, at up to $75,000 per employee. Facebook Inc., Visa, Starbucks Corp., CVS Health Corp. and Anheuser-Busch Companies Inc. are just some of the firms that decided this year to begin covering the procedures for their workers for the first time.

“The jump in terms of employers adopting transgender benefits has been the most dramatic of any single aspect of the Corporate Equality Index in its entire history,” said Deena Fidas, the director of the Human Rights Campaign’s Workplace Equality Program, which has been producing the report for more than a decade.

Ratings in the Corporate Equality Index are derived from a look at five major areas, including: recruiting efforts, whether firms have explicit gender identity and sexual orientation anti-discrimination protections, and if they have extended health care and other benefits to same-sex partners.

While the vast majority of Fortune 500 companies now have nondiscrimination policies that explicitly protect employees from being fired for their gender identity or orientation, companies have moved much more slowly when it comes to covering transgender health care.

Possible shopping outfits, and new French Manicure technique.

Well there hasn't been too much excitement lately. The day-to-day demands of life are in the forefront for me right now, keeping my free time less than usual.

I've been getting in one dress up night a week, so here are a few photos. I'm trying to figure out good combo's that I can wear out in public, as a lot of my clothes are summery, or a little too racy.

I need to do a little more shopping for outfits to, well...., to go shopping in! ;-)

Floral print with Empire waist

I really like dresses with an Empire waist. With my bit of spare tire, I think they work great with that to give me the appearance that I have some kind of hips and 'figure.'  

With our typical mildly cool California "winter", I would probably need a light sweater to go with this? Going out I'd wear pantyhose instead of thigh-highs.

Pleated skirt

Here I'm wearing  a really light pink pleated skirt (I love it - it's so pretty!), with just the sweater and a lacy pink bra underneath. Nude stockings. I'd like to find some peep toe flats to go with this. Miss gave me a French Manicure which you can almost make out. 

New nail technique

And here is little old me with *not my best looking facial expression*. I have on a see-through lacy black top and pink bra. 

Miss picked up a new nail technique that she tried out on me. We bought white nail tips from Sally Beauty, and she glued them on just at the tip of my natural nails. Then she clipped them to a nice medium length. She finished me up by applying a coat of glue to the top of each nail, which I dipped in a soft white nail powder, and then covered with out-the-door top coat. The look was really great!

Sorry that I don't have a better picture. What was really nice was they weren't too bad to get off the next morning when I had to return to boy mode. So I hope I get a lot more time in nails, especially when we go out! 

Women's Glasses - I'm "in disguise" :-)

A while back Marian over at Crossing T's and Dotting I's suggested I try women's glasses to obscure my secret identity. Ok... I don't really have a secret identity, just a plain old normal one.

A few weeks ago I decided I needed some more earrings, as the clip on ones just break all too frequently on me and I was running low :-(

I went online shopping at Claire's, which has a descent collection of clip-on earrings, While I was looking I also noticed they carry faux eyeglasses, so I picked up a pair.

I think I got lucky and picked out a good pair! I really like the look of them, and Miss does too. One day I need to get my prescription done in a pair of women's frames. Maybe the next time I go into the optometrist.

Thanks for the idea Marian!

As it turns out, not looking so Halloween appropriate

I was hoping that my first sissy dress would be something that I might be able to wear this Halloween. But when I tried it on, it's really waaaay too short.

It was more of an afterthought than a plan, so I'm not too disappointed.

However, Miss absolutely loved it! In fact she was completely surprised at how much she really enjoyed seeing me in it. So much so that she wants me in that look again this weekend.

She said she wanted to try it on herself, but I'm not sure if that's because she's curious about how it would fit on her, or if she's curious how she would look as a sissy?

I will make sure to remind her that she wanted to try it on this weekend. I'm looking forward to seeing what she looks like in it, but honestly it isn't anywhere close to her style in my opinion.

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Oh, I had let my fingernails grow out a little bit longer than usual, in the hopes that maybe it would work out to paint them. I've done this several times in the past, but it hasn't worked out. This past weekend we impulse bought a French Manicure pen, and Miss did my nails up really nice! I wish I had thought to take a picture of them, but you can see the white tips in the left-hand picture above.

This was actually one of the very few times my real nails were painted. A couple of times in the past I wore the Kiss brand fake nails which I really enjoyed. But the French Manicure looked really good!

I much more often have my toes painted than my fingernails as I can keep those hidden from the kids during the week with socks and shoes, at least when it's not summer time, so I don't have to take it off after just a couple of days. What has kept me from doing my fingernails every weekend is the amount of time to take it off, and sometimes there are still flecks left even after a lot of effort with polish remover and Emery boards. But the clear polish with the white pen for the tips doesn't have that problem so I'm hoping I can much more often have the French Manicure.

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On my drive to work this morning I was trying to imagine an outfit for Miss that I think would be in the new style she is moving toward. What came to mind is something like an opaque black or "gothish" style bustier for the top (satin-y), black fishnet pantyhose stockings with her Doc Martens, and a black satin skirt or form fitting shorts. 

We might need to do some clothes shopping this weekend! Hmmm, maybe this is chance to go out dressed? I would need to think about where to go shopping that I'd feel comfortable.

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On last note, also last weekend we were doing our usual shopping errands. Miss had picked out a pink shade of lipstick that she wanted me to start wearing while we're out (when in boy mode). She said she thought it would look fine if I just put it on really lightly.

I gave it a shot, but the lighting in the bathroom was such that it didn't look like I had lipstick on. When we were outside it was very obvious that I was wearing it.  I tried to blot a little off before we arrived at our first stop, but it apparently was still noticeable.

Miss said she would be ok if I took it off, but I decided not to. People definitely noticed, and Miss told me one lady looked at me in disgust. Right on! :-)