Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Thanks for not staring - LOL!

I'm really glad I'm feeling comfortable going out en-femme more, because I need to experience more of the reactions I might get when people realize that I'm a trans woman. That is what I need to get used to so my self-confidence will grow and my anxiety about people recognizing me as a trans person will fade away.

I mentioned that I've started going to my electrolysis appointments en-femme. Of course when I arrive, I have a couple of days beard growth. Despite that, I feel that due to the progress we have made my face looks good enough that I am comfortable with the short walk I have to make from the car to the salon.

There are actually two salons that I bounce between because my electrolysis person (I'll call her Mary) works in both on different days. Last weekend I was at the one that is full service and more up-scale. When I arrive they seat me in a reception area with a nice couch and chairs, water, tea & coffee, and a television that is usually showing beauty related content while they let Mary know her next appointment has arrived. Usually I only have to wait a few minutes, but this time she was running a little late so I had to wait longer.

A minute or two after I was seated, they brought back a couple that must have been in their 60's. I'm certain that the wife was there for an appointment, and her husband was along for the ride.

I was seated in the middle of the couch and as the couple entered this area the husband asked if they could put "the game" on for him to watch. I immediately said "let me move over so you can see the TV" and proceeded to slide to one side of the couch (the couch was the best place to sit to be able to see the TV screen). At about the same time I spoke, the receptionist that walked them back said that this TV didn't have regular channels, but when they move into the salon's work area the game would be on a TV there.

I could have sworn the wife did not have her sunglasses on when they entered, but when I looked up I noticed that she was sitting in her chair and she had put on some pretty dark sunglasses. This is not a brightly lit room mind you... So we were basically facing each other, and I felt like she was looking me over through the privacy of her sunglasses. There was not a single polite smile or facial expression from either of them whatsoever the entire time I sat there. While I felt the husband did a much better job of not totally gawking at me, the wife's face never seemed to look away from me as I occasionally glanced up from reading news on my phone.

Mary eventually came out to bring me back to her room. I have to say she is a great young lady, and it seems she very comfortable with me as a trans person. When she comes to get me I love the smile she gives when she sees what I'm wearing. This is just me assuming, but I think she loves having a trans person as a client. We're not all that common after all :-)

Mary told me that when the receptionist let her knowI was in the waiting area, that she said I was looking the best out of all the times that she had seen me! That made my day, as it wasn't said to me but to someone else, so I feel that it was a true compliment.

Here is what I looked like that day. The angle of the sun doesn't do me any favors - it was very unflattering, but here I am...

 

Thanks for reading, and take care all!


8 comments:

  1. Well, at least she put her sunglasses on before staring at you. The ones who stare at me typically don't bother to be discreet...they just stare. Sometimes it becomes "hide and seek" with the eyes.

    People don't always show the best manners.

    Great pictures, though! You are very pretty!

    Hugs,

    Mandy

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    1. Thanks Mandy!

      Yes I guess I'd rather have "them" wearing sunglasses so I don't have to look into their eyes... I think I need more experiences like this to figure out how I deal with them. I know it will be a constant.

      Yes I think people forget their manners when they are surprised at something out of the ordinary. We just need more out of the ordinary in public so it gets more ordinary :-)

      I love your looks too - you make great clothing choices!

      Hugs!

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  2. Jen you look great and I so understand about maybe being stared at while I've never really noticed anyone doing it I know I get looks I mean I get it I'm a very manly looking girl and you know what that's ok.
    Girls like us just have to buck up and deal with it but as long as we are polite and own it as to who we are I think most people will be great
    Hugs Leigh

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    1. Hi Rachael!

      Thank you so much for you comments. You are exactly right we just need to own who we are which is what I'm trying to get better at. Really it's a mental thing that I just need to get over the hump on.

      I have had really good experiences for the most part so yes I think most people are great.

      I love the pictures on your profile, especially of you shopping. Do you have a partner in crime on those trips? If that's TMI you don't have to say :-)

      Hugs to you too!

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    2. No Jen I wish I did have a shopping partner would by so much fun to have somebody like yourself, oh I'm sure we would have such fun.
      I feel we are much alike and would hit it off wonderfully
      And thank you for your sweet complements
      Hugs Leigh

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    3. Hi Leigh,

      I think it would be great to meet you some day. If you ever find yourself in Southern California maybe we could!

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  3. That is soo nice to hear about Mary's smile and how nice she is! hug, sara

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