I have always fantasized about being under as much physical and mental control as possible, as a submissive to a dominant woman (before I had a vocabulary to describe my feelings even!) Chastity is one of the few ways to prove your devotion that is somewhat obtainable today.
Isn't submission to the one you love a great sign of love and devotion? What could prove that more than "I'll do anything you ask, anything to make you happy", "I'll suffer any pain or punishment you see fit to inflict, and beg for more?"
We often hear people say "I'll die for you!" So why not prove it then?!! But not the dying part. Put your money where you mouth is, or your ass over her knee, and prove your love has no limits :-P Did knights really die for their princesses?
I think submission for me came from reading comics in Playboy/Penthouse with FemDom themes. I remember one where women had a guy strapped down to a medical table and were giving him injections to keep him hard - a Viagra prediction? This was 1973 or so and I was in 1st or 2nd grade. He was to be a sex slave. The magazines were in a pile out in a citrus tree field behind where we lived at the time. Obviously someone "hid" them there, and other boys were with me checking them out. Maybe I though if I was submissive I'd get the girl?
Tried chastity in the past... alone.
Before getting back with Miss, I tried chastity out. I orderd a CB2000, then a CB3000. But my ex had no interest with it, so I did not get any of the emotional experience of having someone else controlling access to my cock, and not knowing when I would be allowed to get off again. So it was not fulfilling at all.
Present day
I finally couldn't ignore the need to explore chastity with Miss. I did a bunch of research of blogs and other things online to see what was available. We looked at different types of devices, and decided on one to try out. The picture below is the finished product. It has a urethral tube that can easily be inserted and removed without unlocking the device.
Fine-tuning the fit
I had spent the 2nd and 3rd weeks of October adjusting the device. It is a cheap Chinese knock-off and I really just thought it would only serve to figure out if this style of device was in the ballpark and if it would be worth investing in a higher quality custom made version of it.
I used some JB Weld to make the "A" ring (the one that goes around both the penis and scrotum) a permanent ring as it was a hinged ring that would pinch my skin otherwise. I also bent the metal to make the distance between that "A" ring and the cage part that encloses the penis head and shaft a bit narrower so my testicles would be less likely to slip out. Those adjustments have worked very well so far.
The week prior to Halloween I wore it from Tuesday October 27th to Saturday afternoon October 31st (Halloween) - 4 days. That was my "dry run" (pun intended) to see if this particular chastity device (after my adjustments) was going to work for long term wear. Was it comfortable enough? And was it secure enough to not come off too easily?
I put it back on Sunday November 1st and gave Miss the keys the next day (Monday the 2nd).
I was locked without access to the keys from Sunday to Saturday evening - just short of a week.
It came off Sunday because I told Miss I was not going to be able to be very lady-like at the monthly Tgirl Nights dance party we go to with it on. I could not cross my legs very well at all in chastity. She agreed and unlocked me, which I stayed unlocked until the next morning (Sunday Nov. 8th).
Again I went just short of a full week in chastity. From Sunday morning (Nov. 8th) to the next Saturday night (November 14th). Miss let me out of the cock cage so she could have her fun - hehehehehe! But she locked me back in a short while after.
Miss is totally ecstatic about me being in chastity. She LOVES having that power and control over me. She's had control of me for over 2 weeks now. I can only imagine what it must feel like to control a man's cock by locking it into a metal cage and knowing he will feel pain with every (attempted) erection, and knowing that he can't get off.
Where is Miss going with this?
When I ask Miss questions about what's on her mind, especially when it comes to her plans for me, 2x especially if it has to do with her dispensing discomfort to me, she often says "You are on a need to know basis!"
I asked her in a fairly subtle manner, what does she envision for my chastity? She was coy, as she doesn't like to put something out there and then have it not come to be, and didn't provide a real response. She is used to being disappointed in life, so I understand that she doesn't like to get her hopes up in case they might get crushed. But I suspect if the cage works out she might want me caged up 24/7/365, except for when she has a need for what's inside.
Recap
I've been in chastity since October 27th, with just three periods unlocked (two "for her pleasure"). First time unlocked was for about 18 hours, second time out was about 12, and the third time out was for about 4 hours. So that's three weeks in chastity as of tomorrow...
Hi Jen,
ReplyDeleteYou've touched on a subject here that's unfamiliar to most folks....a form of bondage as a show of submission. It's a great read! Thanks! I love these subjects you bring up!
Your outfit in that last picture appears to be outstanding. Do you have, or can you post, a full picture?
FYI I sent a response earlier today, and it never appeared/disappeared. Here's hoping this one doesn't!
Hugs,
Mandy
Lost post - oh no! :-(
DeleteI didn't expect to feel "proud" at all (for lack of a better word), or have a feeling of accomplishment by being in chastity. But Miss loves it so much (so far!) that I do feel like I've pleased her in an incredibly unique and unexpected way.
If I asked her, I think even Miss might be surprised herself by how much she is enjoying having this control over me. My denial, giving her laughter through my sexual frustration, knowing I'm constantly feeling the presence of the chastity device.
So much of what I'm feeling I didn't expect. The biggest one, based on how she is reacting to all of this, is feeling like this is the best thing I've ever done for her. As a result of that realization, I have an incredible motivation to "do it more" for her so she gets off even more from it.
Jen- Wow! You've had quite a month. As you said, i've put my ass over Her knee, but have not gone this far (yet).
ReplyDeleteI don't think i got into submission too much until i watched male-dom vids and pics. Originally, i thought i would do this (hopefully) to my Wife, but She was not into it. Fast forward, and things are totally reversed!! Who knew? i found i liked being controlled even better!
Re your past "solo" experience, was just seeing vid the other day where Woman said if one is alone, to freeze key in a block of ice (or wax). Not 100%, but would make one think before fully getting it out. hmmm...
So, do you find yourself totally submissive and even a better partner, trying to please Miss and gain release from your cage? Yikes, how is that urethra tube thing?
Funny how you said you couldn't be very lady-like at the t-girl event, wo crossing your legs and such! :)
It sounds like Miss is enjoying this setup... or at least your increased attentions, hee hee! hug, sara
LOL - I started like you too sarah!
DeleteI think my earliest adult memory of anything BDSM I initiated with my ex. Yes, I was the dominant one (but only like twice!) That never caught on and of course now I realize my submissive nature. Miss really brought that out in me!
The freezing of key in ice is a great idea! How about putting it into a sealed metal container so you'd have to thaw it out to get it out? Not sure if that would provide much more of a delay in getting access to the key :-(
I do find that I am more submissive feeling inside, but when Miss keeps me locked in it when we are together it's very frustrating because it makes em more horny for sure!
And getting erect is a bit painful. throb......throb.....throb....Throb-Throb..THROB-THROB-THROB - hehehehehe!
She is REALLY enjoying this, but gets really annoyed with me if I pester her about release, or how uncomfortable it is. She won't put up with that at all.
jenni!
DeleteOh, my, is this in my future then!? Yes, my attempts were not well received. Then it seemed to quickly change (though Her catching me in panties certainly moved things along!)
Hmm, good idea... Just the ice certainly would take some time, i think.
Thanks for your take on wearing one. The throbbing... oh MY! hee hee... i think i'd be one that pesters Her quite a bit... at least until She put me in my place with a painful paddling!
Take care, sara
I love the Chastity cage. It looks awesome on you. I saw pics of this guy on Fetlife about a month ago. Hes been in Chastity for 17 years. How would you feel about that
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your comment about the Chastity cage!
DeleteI am going to put more of a response to how I'd feel about long term chastity in another post that I am working on now. I hope that is ok!
jen